On opposite sides of the country, my best friend and I were looking at the same four walls you find in every hospital. I was rapturously nursing my newborn daughter at my breast while my best friend was saying goodbye to one of hers. At the ripe old age of 33, she was undergoing a mastectomy while I was in an O.R. getting my tubes tied.
We've been friends since we were fourteen and though, most of our friendship has been spent in separate states, due to a move by my family, we have led pretty parallel lives...up until a year and a half ago.
Now, there's nothing funny about having cancer or loving someone with cancer but we've realized during this long journey that you have to laugh and you have to find humor. And that's one of the reasons this blog has come into existence. Maybe we won't be able to poke fun at ourselves every day but we"re sure as hell going to try to make someone smile.
For her latest round of chemo I began sending one funny card to her every day...then I ran out of stamps (or as my three year old muralist likes to call them, stickers).
Hence, a blog she can access everyday for a little tee-hee-hee-hee and support. We've been each other's lifelines for twenty years but this cancer thing, man, I'm gonna need your help to fight this foe. Funny mom stories, funny friend stories, jokes, inspirational writings, quotes.
And I'll do my part. I promise, it'll be funny.
Now, I've got to see if this thing really worked. I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed when it comes to computers but if Carri can sit in a chemo chair for ten hour days, I can hen-peck my way through this mysterious world of blogging.
It was something, providing all that breastfeeding support for you after Sweetie Pie's birth, when I had just had one of my breasts amputated. I had NO mastectomy support.
ReplyDeleteSilas, Arlo, Billy and I all benefited from the nourishment my breasts provided the babies and toddler children...
It's ok to say goodbye to one, knowing that it served its purpose for the family, but sometimes I do wonder if I could've kept it. Or removed the other one to make it more even:)
And about NO mastectomy support, I wonder if that is really a THING...
ReplyDeleteIs it missing? I was really just cut, sewn and moved along the assembly line to my car.
The "Drive thru mastectomy".
Wait a minute--you just cut off one of my nurturing, pleasure giving and receiving parts!
Please ask me how I am about that...
I'm 33 and I have one breast...
That was all almost seven months ago, and we can tell I'm still sore...sore like 1950's irritated greaser-boy sore, who might rough you up, not owie-sore.
I have to admit I was a little worried that you thought it was I, not "The Machine of the Hospital Industry", that had not given you the Mastectomy Support you needed early on. Your emphatic response when I asked you about it finally has me breathing a sigh of relief. You see, it's often hard to know just what you need and from three thousand miles away it's often difficult but I feel so helpless sometimes. I like making you laugh. Did I ever thank you for all that wonderful, priceless nursing support? I am still successfully breastfeeding at seven months thanks to your encouragement. I know how much it means to you that a mommy nurse her babies and I felt like a failure with my other two children. You kept me going, assuring me the baby was getting everything she needed from me and wasn't starving. I have pictures to attest to that fact. :) Seems like you've always been able to support me and I want to be the same rock for you (I hope I have been) because you are the kindest, most generous woman I've ever known. And thankfully, you have so many wonderful friends out there in Eugene. They sound like a great bunch of women. Just know that you are loved, loved, loved by all who share life with you! (and I know you want me to post that pic of your mastectomy scar next to my pic of my nursing breast in action, but I can't yet figure out how to post pics on here but I will keep trying-if anyone out there knows how to post pics on a blog let us know because we have a bunch!)
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